Seriously - it's time to wake up!

We're so entering a new paradigm of thinking and being. The old ways are falling apart - and I know it sucks sometimes, but overall it's a good thing. If things didn't fall apart - we would have a reason to build anything new.

I'm listening to a guy right now channeling a being named "Adamus". He is saying the same thing. How we're living in a sea of potential, and the key to all of it is to follow our deep passion.

FOLLOW OUR DEEP PASSION. I talked to someone on New Years that was so passionate about many things, yet working in a job that he said "I die a little bit every day when I sit in my cubicle".

Raise your hand if you feel like this.

I know you don't know how to do it. I know you're going to tell me, "but I have to pay the bills". Is it worth killing yourself for? Killing your spirit, your passion, doing something you don't give a damn about for hours each day?

I know that how to get from point A to point B is not always obvious. Many times is just isn't. I can't tell you how to go from A to B - that's your journey.

What I can tell you is this: Decide today that you're GETTING OUT. Just decide. Set a date. Take some interest in doing what you want to do. Start asking questions. Get help. Do what you need to do.

I'm asking for me and for you and for everyone: take an interest in empowering yourself and contributing a passionate vibe to the world. We don't need any more of the "I can't do it" mentality that's poisoned all of us. I know it takes time and patience to break out of it, all I'm asking is that you get up.

Get up off the couch. Start the journey.

Just start.

You're in for quite a ride ; )! I love you all and see the beauty in you.

The Consequences of Truth

There's a part of all of us that we hide from the world. Some parts we're aware that we hide, and some are so far buried that we don't even know what we're hiding anymore. During my own growth as a person, a soul, a coach, and a teacher, I have come face to face with more of my "stuff" in the year 2009 than I have in my whole life. It's been amazing what I've uncovered, but I tell ya - it's not always been a "roses and rainbows" process.

During the last few weeks of 2009, I started to feel more and more like it's become more painful to hide and repress who I am and how I feel than to express it. When I first started to feel this way, it came with a nice hot side dish of attitude: Hey buddy, if you don't like me *blank* you! Now, of course I realized that I didn't want to stay there, but I still sensed there was something healthy on the horizon. After a lifetime of seeking approval, I finally felt little need for it. I had a confidence and a love for myself that I had never had before.

I look around and notice how hard this can be for most of us. We really do live in a society that does not celebrate truth - in fact we celebrate the illusion most of the time. Sure, things are evolving little by little, but at this point in history there is still more of the b.s. out there than the real deal.

I've noticed in my commitment to truth that it is incredibly freeing to say exactly how I feel while trying to express myself in a healthy and loving way. However, I still notice that it can make people uncomfortable and sometimes trigger their own "stuff" to come up to the surface. I think it's why many of us prefer to not rock the boat rather than say no, express anger, set boundaries or limits, or simply state our own truth. On some level, it must mean that we value the approval from others more than from ourselves.

Remember what they say on the plane? "Put your own oxygen mask on first?" If we go through life trying not to say something wrong, hurt someone's feelings, make someone angry with us, or say no to a person or situation that we know in our bones is not serving us anymore - we exhaust ourselves. When we do what is best for us first, stay true to who we are, and love ourselves - then we can show up in the world in an authentic and loving way. People in your life will trust you even more because they know that if you didn't want to be there you wouldn't, and if don't like it you'll say so.

In starting off a new year, or even a new day, it's important to remember that if you don't take care for yourself and take care of others first, someone is getting the short end of the stick. This is about valuing ourselves and letting the world know that we're valuable - and setting that shining example for others. The truth is, yes - someone may get upset with you if you say how you feel. Someone may not like it when you put up a boundary. Someone might kick and scream if you say "no, I'm tired - you'll have to make your own dinner tonight". That is true.

Is it worth it? Will that make everyone happier if you say yes, while seething and screaming on the inside? If you think your thoughts are not landing somewhere, think again. If you stay true to yourself and you feel good, you feel free, you feel valuable - what will you be sending out then? Trust me on this: the world needs your honesty and love more than your politeness and repressed anger.

Think about it! Right now, even today as you read this, an opportunity will come for you to practice this. If we want to live in a world that values truth, it starts with you and me. Go on and tell 'em how you feel. It'll get easier the more you do it - I promise! Let your truth and light shine for all to see today, even if it comes with a hot steaming side dish of a little attitude from time to time. It's okay - we can handle it.

The darkest day of the year

The solstice is known for it's spiritual power. Today is the day of the winter solstice, the darkest day of the year. It is the day in which we are reaching the contraction point, and getting ready to go back into expansion with more light coming in, and the days getting longer and full of possibility.

Today is a good day to go inside, as it is rich with "yin" energy. Many rituals exist around the solstices, and today is a good day to reflect, cleanse and release.

I'm doing a couple of rituals today, and spending some time in silence and reflection. I have been having a lot of ideas lately, a lot of guidance coming with the intentions I have set for 2010, but something tells me to stay quiet today. Clean my house. Do my laundry. Write. Feel. Later today I will be having a releasing ritual with a friend of mine - as always the power of intention is stronger in a group.

You don't have to do anything fancy today, and I know the world is telling you to run around and get ready for Christmas. I'm telling you that you don't have to. It's actually preferable if you do just the bare minimum today. Go inside and ask yourself what needs to be loved and released for you to become the person you wish to be in 2010. Today is not about making plans, today is about being where you are and addressing what is present in your life now.

Anyway, I must get off the computer now and go about my quiet time. A time for reflection - what are you reflecting on today?

Thinking outside the box

In the spirit of being real and sharing my stuff with you (hoping that it will inspire), I'm going to share with you something I realized today that, well, makes me feel a little like slapping my head and saying, "um, DUH."

I used to get up in the morning early, I have this whole morning routine I do. In the program that I sell, I call it the Morning Empowerment Routine, or the "ME" time. Yes, pun intended.

For the last few weeks, I've been finding it really hard to wake up in the morning. I got sick for a while, and then there's winter, which makes it a little harder. I find myself not sleeping very well and in the morning opting for more sleep instead of empowerment, which serves me every now and again - but when I keep doing it I really feel it. I *long* to get back to my routine.

For the last few days, I have set my alarm for early with no success on getting my butt out of bed. Really, this time of year it feels the best to me to wake up around 8AM. When I get up then I feel rested, any earlier and I'm struggling through the day.

Point being, I haven't had a regular exercise routine for the last few weeks because it never even occurred to me to exercise any time but the morning. I talk about it all the time to wake, exercise, etc. Today, like a flash it occured to me that I could do it after work.

Oh my god.

This time of year, I find that I have more energy in the evening anyway. By working out at night I can save my mornings for 30 min to an hour of writing, meditating, etc. and not feel rushed. So while in the shower today, I got out and packed my little gym bag and after work, headed over to the nice gym - the 24 hour fitness at Potero Hill. They have a pool and jacuzzi too. Yum.

I went without having to watch the clock, I was full of energy and had a great workout. I smiled, bouncing up and down on the stair-master whilst listening to my crazy workout music - a mix of 80's and heavy metal. I know, I'm super weird.

Now I came home and packed a swimsuit, ready to make this a regular thing until I am back up at 6 or 6:30AM which usually happens during the spring. Tomorrow I'm gettin' in that pool, jacuzzi, and mama might even take a little steam in.

Sometimes we get so locked into our way of doing things we don't even consider that there could be another option. So I invite you to look around at your own life now and ask yourself where you can do more "thinking outside the box". As we get ready for a new year in 2010, it's time to start considering that there's more than one way to do things.

Speaking of this, I just scheduled my first radio show of the year: How to have a KICK ASS year in 2010 - 5 Keys to Reinventing yourself. I've got a new page up on my website that is featuring all the shows, and there's an opt in list if you would like to receive recordings and reminders for the upcoming shows. I've got some amazing guests lined up! Here's a link to the page: http://www.anastasia-netri.com/btrguests.html

Love and Success to you!

My Vision Board

I've told people to do this, and I took my own down because I didn't really like it, and that was like 6 months ago.

Wanting to walk my talk, I got a fire under me to do a vision board for the year 2010. A few weeks ago I made a list of things I want to have by Dec 1st, 2010. It was a long list that got me super excited thinking about it, not just about "having the stuff", but because the "stuff" represents all the crap I've let go of, and all I've embraced. Only when I've done this will I have these things, and I know I was looking forward to the woman I would be called to BE to manifest these cool situations and yummies in my life.

This morning, I sat down at my computer and searched google images to find pictures that represent nearly every one of these goals. It was super easy, and each picture I saved, put into a MS Word document, and sent it online to Kinko's (I only have a B&W laser-jet and no color printer). For a total of $3.50, I went and picked up the pages later on, got my posterboard, sissors, and glue stick - and had a ball with this.

I have a picture of Tim Ferris on there, and so far he's taking up most of my attention because he's so friggen hot.

I have a pic of lots of other people, a colorfully decorated home, travel, love - it's all on my vision board. I spent some time and care on this one and I couldn't be more pleased with how it turned out. I put it on my wall where it will be the first thing I see in the morning.

Good morning Tim my darling, nice to see ya.

This costs $3.50, maybe a total of $8.00 with the materials - and brings so much clarity, I feel like the tools are all coming in place. I've done so much inner work this year - and I feel today as though I'm feeling really aligned. It feels so good.

I know you're going to do it when you're ready - and I'm not going to preach to you about creating your vision board. All I can tell you is this - this is a piece that really helps when you say to yourself, "This isn't cute anymore."

Another great thing I got out of "The 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse". Thanks Debbie, you're on the board too.

How much of a bad ass are you when people have pictures of you on their vision board?

The Ego Defined

I have struggled with this as I've started down the "spiritual" path a few years ago. Hearing about the ego wants, ego desires, how they are not who we are and all of that. Most of my spiritual friends "lovingly detest" their egos, and don't own it as part of themselves. It's almost gotten to be embarrassing, and again - something to be shamed.

Then there's the talk of the healthy ego by the intellectuals - this back and forth thing that no one really seems to understand.

It really confused me.

Certainly it serves some purpose, or it wouldn't be here, right? Somehow making my ego my enemy didn't seem right. However, I didn't know what to do with it. Since then I've been trying to find some kind of an answer that fit.

A few days ago, I found myself in another breakthrough state, down very low and feeling in crisis. I've been thought this enough times that I know something is coming - it still doesn't make the pain suck any less - but I know there's purpose in it and it'll come to me eventually. This belief and knowing I think is why I tend to not have to wallow in the pain for too long before coming out of it with some kind of new realization about life, myself, the world - like I've peeled back yet another layer and I'm getting deeper into these parts of myself that I've never seen, and learning to love and accept myself more every day.

In the midst of this last crisis, I watched "The Shadow Effect", Debbie Ford's fabulous movie for the 4th time, and crying hysterically all the way through. I ended up ordering her new book "the 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse", not really knowing much about it but feeling called to read it.

I'm on page 40, and I know exactly why this book is in my hands right now. It's truly amazing. There's so many wonderful things she says in this rich and juicy 40 pages, but I wanted to share one excerpt that she wrote about the ego. This completely makes sense to me, unlike any definition that I've ever heard:

"Your ego's job is to create an outer shell so that you can know yourself as a unique, individual expression. Your ego is your unique human expression. But if you are not aware of the workings of the ego, it will take over your entire consciousness like a cancerous tumor. When you remain blindly rooted inside your ego structure, your connection to your higher power is clouded over. It still exists, but the channel throughout which you can experience it becomes blocked by the confines of your ego's wall, the constrictions of your ego's grasp.

In other words, it is the outer persona, the shell of your human ego, that blinds you from seeing this very resource hidden within.

When you are completely identified with the shell of your individual self, your ego, you are blind to this divine state of consciousness, this light that is sometimes called God. This is one of life's great paradoxes, because to be a human being is to have an outer shell, an ego presence. You need your ego's persona to distinguish yourself from others. It's only when you fail to recognize that your outer shell is just one aspect of who you are that you shut the door on God's light."
From Debbie Ford's book: The 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse

So this makes sense.

On another note, I've seen that over and over someone will judge their very desires as "desires of the ego", and not follow them because the desires may include money or fame or something. I don't feel this way personally.

I believe that within these desires is a desire for evolution and growth. If someone has a desire to be a famous actor, and judges this as a "ego desire" - they may be missing out on the greatest growth opportunity of their lives. That very journey will cause you to discover strength, power, vulnerability, courage, etc. You'll have to love and accept yourself more, come out of your comfort zone - all of it.

Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between the desires of the ego and the desire of the soul. I say, if it feels good and doesn't hurt anyone - then it's your soul for sure. Money and fame can be used for amazing things in the world - so there's no need to deem these things as "egoic". Ultimately, it's learning to co-exist with our ego self and our higher self, seeing them both as a valuable part of who we are.

Do with this what you will. Have a wonderful day - love yourselves and each other.

It's been since AUGUST?

I looked at my last post and it was in AUGUST. My goodness, where did the time go? I know where it went - to all the inner and outer work I've been doing over the last few months.

Kinda wish I'd been blogging about it more.

Well, today's a new day.

Being that you're reading the blog 'o the "SuperCoach" I'm guessing you're wanting something kinda inspiring today. So I'll do my best to give it to ya.

When I search my mind for the most inspiring thing I can think of is this:

You have something that you really want to do in life. You have something that is calling you.

The only reason you're not doing it is because you have a head full of beliefs (LIES) that say you can't. That's it. If you're aware of that or not - if there's something you want to do, be, and have - and you don't - that's the reason.

I know you've been doing affirmations and they have not always "worked". You're still feeling scared, still not trusting that everything will be okay, and still seeing limits as opposed to opportunities.

I know, it happened to me. It's still happening to me. "Unlearning" all the stuff we've learned can take some commitment. However, it doesn't have to be "hard".

Put some attention on forming new beliefs, that's where all of the stuff you have going on in your head and in your life begins. If you're trying to change your behavior and not your belief that got you there in the first place, you're going to go back to the belief every time, in the form of "self-sabotage".

Call me or visit my website today to set up a session with me, and I'll show you HOW to do this, with actual scientific methods that work!

The world needs you to come alive. For God's sake, do it.